Tips from a Plus Size Summer Bride

I was married on July 22, 1995. My greatest fears about that day? Tripping, mascara running, getting thigh burn, sweating too much (hello, it was July), and the dreaded garter scene. Thanks to great planning ahead of time, excellent grooms people on both sides, and dedicated family, everything went off without any drama.

I looked a little warm but was surprisingly comfortable, it did not rain, there were no brawls, and everything was served when it supposed to be. Two things happened that still stick in my mind as fowled up but when I put on my “realistic me” hat they are minor. The Priest called us by our first names instead of by our second names. Both my husband and I go by our second names, always have. We explained this to the Priest during the first meeting and then again in rehearsal. I watched him make notes both times but he still he said it wrong. The other incident which I am still kind of harbouring a grudge for was the top layer of our wedding cake being left out all night instead of going into the freezer for my one year anniversary. I sound a bit bitter don’t I? Some times it is the little things we dwell on.

Things I am Glad I Had

• Face powder and brush.
• Arm pit pads.
• Shades for fun pics and squint protection.
• Waterproof mascara.
• Waterproof mascara (it deserves a second mention).

Things I Wish I Had

• A change of shoes. These days there are special fold-able ballet flats and even flip flops seem to be acceptable options at the reception.
• A change of pantyhose.
• Lacy shorts like Luvees for thigh rub. The pantyhose helped but I think I would have been even more comfortable.
• Oil tissues/cotton pads for t-zone.
• More confidence.

Things You or Your Wedding Party Should Be Prepared With

• Running interference with people who take up too much of your time.
• Umbrellas for bridal party but especially for the bride. Even if the weather man says it will be clear. We all know the weatherman cannot be trusted. Even if it does not rain umbrellas are great for bridal party picture fun and to keep the sun off the bride if it is too hot or bright bright while waiting. Anything to keep cooler.
• Back up cash would be helpful. For the emergency pantyhose, glue, food.
• Lots of short jokes — you need all the levity you can get on such a long day.
• Pick the person who has the most calming effect on you to be the designated “it” person for talking you down if something goes wrong and make sure the rest of the bridal party knows who this person is.

If you are a summer bride what are you most worried about? If you have already walked down the isle what are some of your wedding tips for summer brides?